Here’s a catch:
Commenting on someone’s query with “good question” meant to complement, but it is still a judgment — even if we haven’t meant to do that.
Because if there are “good” questions, it implies that there are “bad” questions.
And to those who are now in a hurry to say, “there are no bad questions!”, I’ll reply that I full-heartedly agree; yet it also means that there are no good questions without implementing judgment (as if we’re grading the question being asked…).
I started catching myself and replacing the habit of saying to someone “good question” with “I…
“I will not reason and compare; my business is to create”.
In the summer of 2013, I was standing on the brink. Not a dramatic one, but definitely the kind that requires a decision that will affect me for years: Should I join the social media?
I disliked the idea that my life would be exposed to anyone on the internet, I wasn’t happy thinking about different people from the past who will “show up” online and I’ll be obliged to approve their contact request, and I mainly didn’t want to spend too much on those platforms, which…
Let’s get to it. Here are 15 ways to cultivate self-kindness:
1. Listen to your own needs just as you listen to others’ needs.
2. Don’t judge yourself for past or present mistakes.
3. Give yourself time or heal from bad or traumatic experiences.
4. Do something for yourself without calculating how it will benefit your productivity/financial situation/effectivity.
5. Don’t apologize for your choices.
6. Acknowledge your fears and concerns. “Fearless” is not really human; facing fear starts from acknowledging it exists.
7. KNOW your boundaries and RESPECT your boundaries.
8. Allow yourself to dream of a desired future for…
Miriam has moved to the U.S. for a semester in her dream school. Carl has taken a promotion that took him to Switzerland, far away from home. Jenny has gone to Australia to be with the man she loves. And all of them are suddenly quarantined far away from home, facing a whole set of experiences that have brought us together in a truly unprecedented way.
Moving abroad challenges us both professionally and personally. Whatever the reason for living abroad, one often struggles emotionally as they overcome culture shock, creating a new social network, and creating new routines and habits…
How can we, as changemakers, make use of unity to sustain ourselves first and work after? To answer this question, we must first look at the mental models of competitiveness and accomplishment that we’re often captured in.
The majority of us are being raised in a culture where competition and achievement are considered the basic elements of success. We are measured by grades and numbers, salaries, and materialistic accomplishments. We are rewarded for our achievements and rebuked or punished for our failures, and we are judged for our results instead of efforts, intentions, and processes. …
“Everything that lives, lives not alone nor for itself”
I have a constant reminder of this quote, after putting it on my website homepage. I wanted it to both communicate a message and be used as a guiding line for my work.
I’m fortunate enough to love my work, even after years of practice, yet I didn’t want even for a minute to deviate from the overarching purpose of what I intend to do: serving others, serving a bigger cause than myself and my closest circles.
It’s not an easy ride though.
Too often, we encounter opportunities to…
Over 50 cups of coffee for a group of 25 people, comprised of two women and the rest are men. A few dozens of short cigarette breaks during 3.5 hours. 48 colorful sticky notes with key insights are collected over the same period of time, plus a few abstract doodles made on the big white paper sheets laid on the tables.
Talking about shame, guilt, and other hidden feelings with a group of over 20 men working in manufacturing is not an easy task. Neither for them, as participants in this experiment, nor for me, their facilitator.
The idea came…
If there’s one image that particularly stood up after the terror attack in a mosque in New Zealand, is not the praying Muslims, not the injured and bleeding people rushed into the hospital, nor the funeral scenes. The one image that has received the highest attention, the widest written referral and probably the largest number of sharing on social media — is of Prime Minister Jacinda Ardern, wearing hijab, eyes full of sadness and grief.
The praise for the way Ardern chose to response to the terror attack — by treating the victims’ families with full compassion, by talking to…
“I swear, if you were my own child — I would be so pissed off at you right now”, told me the mother of my best friend, a few years ago.
In her defense, those words were aimed at me while she was wearing the hat of my accountant, a role she’s been doing voluntarily during the early years of the first business venture I founded, “just until you financially stand up on your feet”, her words. The reason for the rebuke, was because I was making a ridiculously low income in those first years.
In my defense, being an…
I don’t celebrate Christmas.
First, I was raised in a secular Jewish house. Second, I’m a little resistant to the tendency of turning the big holidays into a sparkling shopping fest. Third, I prefer to celebrate current progress and future aspirations rather than half-history half-mythology events of the past.
But this time, I had a very good reason to celebrate.
We were just wrapping up a team call, the last one for 2018, after the successful launch of our new initiative, Enkindle Global. We all pushed hard against the deadline of the holidays, knowing that many people amongst our target…